[YauGuai]

I have constantly failed to convince my wife that porn is a harmless activity. wondering if anyone has ideas if they have struggled with this? or maybe porn just isnt for some people?

[ddent toronto]

It is harmless unless you're only watching it and ignoring her. I don't think there's any married man that doesn't watch porn

[alearraba98]

Well, think about it my dude:

Women are competitive af when it comes to looks. A big chunk of their self-esteem comes from it for more than understandable reasons, (which I don't intend to classify as good or bad, IMO it's just biology). Of course she's gonna feel jealous about some cuter, younger girl turning you on. 

You've probably been with this woman for some time now as well. She probably wonders if you'll ever trade her for a younger or more attractive version of her. You're tapping into two major insecurity nodes most married women have.

As long as you amply reassure her, everything should be ok. If she still tries to "ban" porn then calmy explain that you won't. It's one thing to reassure her because you understand where she comes from and something else entire to cater to arbitrary shit like that.

Good luck!

[Hanabichu]

What did you do to convince her? Did you try to watch porn together?

[Hunkachunkbunka]

Porn is generally harmless yes but in this case, it's harmful to her because she is probably feeling self conscious about herself and maybe feeling inadequate because you rely on porn. It's common to feel this way and it might be time for you lay porn down for a good while and show her some appreciation and love that makes her believe she is always the first thing in your mind and porn is just an excuse and fantasy.