[kuuuuuuio]

Just what makes it so good? I’ve tried quitting and the most I’ve gone is a few months.

[BoyVault]

try r/NoFap - they have reasons to do so. Its no shame in taking a break

[ALuno]

the problem is when it becomes addiction

[thedumesh]

It's definitely got something to do with the reward mechanism in our body. Like why would you spend the time cultivating friendships, being social, and developing a relationship to get sexual pleasure when you could just hop onto pornhub and get the same feeling in a few mins??

If you really wanna beat it (kek pun intended, i mean beat the addiction) then you're gonna have to do some hard-fixes to your body's reward mechanics. Either do:
- a cold turkey quitting method, teach your body that it won't get pleasure from porn again, because you wont allow it (but this is hard to stick to)
- do a dopamine fast (look it up) method, similar to a cold turkey approach but really just cutting all forms of pleasure, and basically reset your body to get pleasure from normal activities again
or
- work on a kind of wholistic approach, y'know the typical "hit the gym, eat good, sleep hard" stuff, get your body going down a healthy road, develop some habits around exercise, start up a personal project with a hobby (idk maybe you like drones? hiking? running? gardening?) give your mind something to strive for and a goal to work toward, and it will slowly start to use these as ways of achieving pleasure as well, and it will not depend on porn as much

best of luck in ur journey brother

[hiddninja]

If you're spending all day watching porn or thinking about porn, you may consider it a problem you have to fix, but a lot of people just watch tv, or browse social media, or a number of other things all day so there is a point where porn is just a hobby that you're interested in doing. If you think it's affecting your life and what you want your life to be, then for sure, try to cut back, but if you're chilling and enjoy yourself and are not hurting or burdening anyone, then just go for it.

[blimdiglion]

But I must explain to you how all this mistaken idea of reprobating pleasure and extolling pain arose. To do so, I will give you a complete account of the system, and expound the actual teachings of the great explorer of the truth, the master-builder of human happiness. No one rejects, dislikes or avoids pleasure itself, because it is pleasure, but because those who do not know how to pursue pleasure rationally encounter consequences that are extremely painful. Nor again is there anyone who loves or pursues or desires to obtain pain of itself, because it is pain, but occasionally circumstances occur in which toil and pain can procure him some great pleasure. To take a trivial example, which of us ever undertakes laborious physical exercise, except to obtain some advantage from it? But who has any right to find fault with a man who chooses to enjoy a pleasure that has no annoying consequences, or one who avoids a pain that produces no resultant pleasure? On the other hand, we denounce with righteous indignation and dislike men who are so beguiled and demoralized by the charms of pleasure of the moment, so blinded by desire, that they cannot foresee the pain and trouble that are bound to ensue; and equal blame belongs to those who fail in their duty through weakness of will, which is the same as saying through shrinking from toil and pain. These cases are perfectly simple and easy to distinguish. In a free hour, when our power of choice is untrammeled and when nothing prevents our being able to do what we like best, every pleasure is to be welcomed and every pain avoided. But in certain circumstances and owing to the claims of duty or the obligations of business it will frequently occur that pleasures have to be repudiated and annoyances accepted. The wise man therefore always holds in these matters to this principle of selection: he rejects pleasures to secure other greater pleasures, or else he endures pains to avoid worse pains.